When we are hit with the news of a loss of someone, it can be difficult to deal with. We may not know what has to be done and how we should be reacting. The important thing to keep in mind here is that there is no wrong way to react. All of us have our way of reacting so it doesn’t matter what you end up doing. Don’t block out the feelings that your mind is trying to feel instead make sure that you experience them. Now, we understand that this is easier said than done and it is normal for you to want to block the pain. But think about this way, if you do not deal with it now, it will only end up hurting more in the future. One part of dealing with the loss of a person is having to write a condolence message. You would have heard a lot about what to do in these cases, but we are looking at it from a different angle. What we would like to do is focus on the feelings that you will be having while writing this. It makes no difference if you keep the condolence messages short or long, these principles apply. What could they be?
Pain
This is obviously going to be the most prominent feeling that you will be having, and we suggest that you use this to your advantage. Writing about the pain that you are feeling is a great way to deal with your emotions. Putting what you are thinking into words will make it easier to deal with whatever is going on in your mind. So, use that pain and think of how you can express it. Doing this task will make sure that the message you are writing is heartfelt and what you want to say.
Relief
You may be wondering how this is a feeling you will be having so, allow us to explain. By putting your thoughts in a message, you will feel a sense of relief at having started to deal with the person’s loss. But remember that this is something you will be feeling immediately, or it could take some time, but it will happen. It can be difficult to write the message but if you are willing to put in the effort, you will ultimately end this endeavour feeling better.